The Law of Relationship

The common thread of Tantra as I considered it was the inter-weaving of relationships between things apparently different and their underlying unity of inter-action. Tantra welcomes things as they are. Tantra is not other than love and letting go... into deeper love communion.

The following is not meant to be definitive ... only a conversation starter.

With a little observation it should come as no surprise that every living thing follows  basic laws of relationship. Whether interpersonal, intra-personal or trans-personal, relationship is a royal road along the continuum of separation vs unity. Both the spiritual quest and the healers way's are steeped in the dynamics of relationship just as surely as are our social dynamics. The Hebrew idea of the soul as a community of voices within and the outer community as it's reflection is a good analogy here.

We may speak of love as the aspiration for a perfect relatedness, of perfect community. I would like to present briefly here, two dynamics of love which are healing and are integral to most subtle-energy based healing systems.

The first is the aspect of attention. I call this the feminine/magnetic aspect. It is most basically the desire to be noticed. Whether noticing a woman has changed her hair style, or doing mindfulness meditation, or tapping on a meridian, this first of loves aspects is brought into play. Whatever the presenting condition, its desire is to be fully noticed or attended to. If it is not, an opportunity for relationship is missed and distance is reinforced as a protective barrier. A chance for connection and union is lost or a healing missed.

The second aspect of love I deem a masculine principle of electrical charge. It is a more active form of communion expressed as admiration. That which is admired tends to persist and become stronger. It is love-ing, syntropic and it is creative. It is wise to pay attention and give attention and then up the ante to admiration. There is always something to admire, even if it is the creativity we exercise in manifesting our problems - which are what we once saw as solutions to to our suffering.  In honoring this creativity we also are affirming that this creativity may now be exercised in new ways for our betterment.

Attention itself does not bring persistence, rather it creates inclusive space for interaction as a sequential population of things to be admired. In doing so it releases what has gone before it back into the stream of possibility - rather than memory, which keeps score. Admiration selects from this stream what is most easily (comfortably) attended to, reinforcing the probability of its re-occurrence.

From this meditation we may recognize that all relationship formations are dependent on some form of communication or communion. Therefore any attention seeking form - as for example a pain or in-congruent behavior - is trying to communicate something. Perhaps even the rock is trying to communicate something to the stream which polishes it. One may inquire as to what that something is. If properly identified it may be acknowledged and released. Judgements are a mis-identification of that which seeks attention.

If a presenting condition is released, the resulting void may then present itself as a seeking for what is admirable. Finding this admirable and appropriate void filling quality may involve a journey into the deepest heart-space of desire for ourselves and for our clients.

Failings in healing or in relationships in general may be examined then, either as a failure of attention and/or failure of admiration. This is of course oversimplified and it might be well to consult a thesaurus  before disagreeing with the premise. And as always words are but pointers.

Try this formulation on for fit: Attention and admiration are an energetic currency of love-bliss. To love without co-dependence is to admire, and to be loved is to find oneself admired for what you are and for what you might become - beginning from the inside out. If ones sense of being admired is derived from the outside it is not sustainable and may even become narcissistic. 

I admire my readers for sticking with me through through this discourse. May it help you achieve your hearts desire and bring forth powerful manifestations love and healing.